I've come across an interesting TED talk that is titled "How not to take things personally?". Frederik, the speaker presents the answer in a simple elegant way. What causes the discomfort either has to do with you or with them. I will explain with a story.

Once upon a time, I had a crush on a girl who we usually play volleyball with. One day, I collected my courage and decided to have a chat with her to know her more beyond our small talks. What happens is she ignored my questions and disappeared. I felt a pain in my chest and asked myself: should I take it personally?

At first, I thought it was about me, I know that I'm not as good with girls as I'm with computers 😅 so I thought this is what caused that pain. Frederik recommends in this case to give yourself empathy and speak up your need.

Then, I thought again, maybe it is not about me, maybe she is going through a tough time, so I asked her if everything is alright? she opened up and started to tell me about how life is hitting hard on her.

It might be about you and your insecurities, or it might be about them and their needs. In both cases, life is too short to keep up with your ego, let it go.

After 9 months of hard work, I have defended my graduation thesis obtaining an MSc in Structural Engineering at Eindhoven University of Technology.

In my thesis, “Numerical methods in the analysis of geometrically non-linear structures” I have studied and compared different nonlinear approaches for solving geometrically nonlinear problems. The thesis has paved the way for my upcoming new project, which is a plugin for Grasshopper that features Static/Explicit/Implicit simulations with robust non-linear capabilities.

I would like to thank my supervisor, Akke Suiker for his generous support and all the people who help me throughout the journey.